Wednesday, September 19, 2012

iCloud set up Part 1

hee hee this blog is about my frustrations on setting up my I Cloud ---Part 2 will be my solution. I just think it is funnier this way. Ok the manufacturers APPLE recommended set up is to set up all electronic devices on the I Cloud. So I start with my Apple iPhone ---- let’s go! Check to see if you have the latest iOS revision ----- iPhone states I have iOS revision 5.1.1 which is the latest revision and I can add I Cloud............. but in the corner of reassuring me I am fine there is a download for the new wonderfully improved and latest revision iOS 6. Huh? Do I Cloud at 5.1.1 or download 6??? Okay I make a decision to use 5.1.1 and continue to enter my Apple ID. Then it says??? Account ID, cost of I Cloud information. I check for cost information. There is my credit card information asking me for my secret code??? Huh? How much is this going to cost? I thought this was free? The free stuff that needs a credit card number I have learn over the years means funny charges, with weird names will start showing up on your credit card bill. Oh and I learn once you set a password on your I Cloud account ---you can never change it! Well this has been a problem for me in the past --- I was so paranoid of the internet in the 80s that I gave all password information incorrect information. Phony birthdates, phone mother's maiden names, phone first car owned. And like more liars I could not remember all my lies!! Lol or all my passwords!! I am going back to the drawing board and go at this I Cloud set up for a different angle. When I was with ATnT they helped me with setting up apps. Sprint tells me to call customer service. Sprint customer service is young Philippine girls teaching their friends to answer phones with no training. So I will get back to this later: I will then write part 2. Of I Cloud set up.

Thursday, April 19, 2012

Letting Go and Letting God 2012

Easter has passed. And being an "older person" now. I have kind of started some rituals that help me deal with life. I have set up a yearly plan that works for me. It is where September starts my year. Planting bulbs, starting new classes etc.
Well Easter is the end of one of my seasons. And the beginning of my Season of Manifestation

In short, we have a prayer box. On Easter we review our prayer requests. For every request granted we thank God and give Him the Glory. For every request with a "not yet" or "no" answer we give back to God.

Before I looked at my box this year I was rather down heartened. I felt I would have 2 dozen things to Let GO!! But the "analytical" in me was so blessed. Wow wow wow There were an abundance of PRAYERS ANSWERED!!! Tough ones also!! It was nice to review those issues and reflect on how God had the better PLAN. and how truly BLESSED I am.

Bottom line ---- only 8 out of 24 needed to be given back to GOD!!! As I was preparing my letters to each prayer request it occurred to me that they felt like failures to me. They are like the fly ball that I missed! To this day I can remember playing softball and a fly ball coming to me. And for some unknown reason ---- I ducked!! ugh!!! the humiliation!! It was not a hard ball, it was not going to hurt, it was right in front of me---and I ducked. WHY???

That failure haunted me for days. and while tying my notes to the balloons I thought how these 8 items felt like "my failures". My missed balls, my strike outs, my falling down in public. But then I realized just as I realized then ------ I need to just pick myself up again and try harder.

Sure there were some jerks that tried to bring my "missed fly ball up in conversation" or liked to reminisce about it with their friends. But soon their constant attempts to try to define me or put me down to make them feel better about themselves just got pitiful and ridiculous. Because honestly I got over it and accomplished so much more since then.

So with the aspirations to just "get over it" and go on to my purpose in life. I released my unfulfilled dreams, hopes, relationships to GOD. So I released 8 things to GOD. That is not to say those same things will not try to take a stronghold on me again. and they may end up as unanswered prayer again this year. But that is okay. 66% success rate on the impossible is pretty good!!!!!

Thursday, January 19, 2012

While scanning photos----- a photo from my wedding

I know my father loved me very much but he had a "truck drivers sense of humor".

My niece was about 10 years old when I married Tony. Lori Lynn at the age of 10 years old attended my wedding rehearsal. Her father, my brother, stood up with Tony at the wedding and her mother was hostess of the wedding.

Lori Lynn was young but already knew what she expected to happen at a wedding.

Lori talks today about how confused she became at my wedding rehearsal the night before the wedding.

Tony was not my first husband. And my father never could miss an opportunity to crack a joke,

During the rehearsal my father thought it would be funny to say ------ When asked ---"Who gives this woman away?" My father replied "I do........and this time keep her"

I might add here also my father provided my husband with a sympathy card at the wedding reception. Something about I know the next few years will be very difficult and you have my sympathy and Yes my father thought of himself as very funny indeed.

While scanning photos----- a photo from my wedding

Luckily my father behaved himself during the actual wedding and replied with a correct---"her mother and I do"

Looking at this photo so many years later--- I either had on very tall high heels or the camera was at a strange angle because I did not tower over my father in height.

My father was about 5'10" and I am about 5' 5"

Thursday, December 1, 2011

The lesson learnt from our own industrial revolution at the turn of the last century.

Oh. I have already solved the world's problems. Same old Ruth! We learn from our own Industrial revolution over 100 years ago!

My impressions are limited to meeting young Chinese people while I worked on outsourcing business opportunities. I have participated in more than one manufacturing facility leaving Silicon Valley to China.
The young people from China I met had several concerns in common:

1. The pressure put on "only children" to succeed. Pre-teen suicide is alarmingly high. If a child is not significantly above average, which by definition is over 50% of the children, the young people are at a high risk for depression and suicide.
The thinking has been said to be something like this ----

My parents are only allowed one child. I will be responsible for my parents in old age. I cannot compete. I am a disappointment. If I kill myself my parents can try for another child and the new child would be able to provide for my parents better than me.

2. The increasing demand to care for extended family members.
3. Heighten social life pressure. Networking is key to success.
4. Health care is not readily available.

In my limited exposure to the young people of China, this is my observation.

A 25 year old young competitor is too old to compete. You must make your money in about 5 years to supply for your family for the rest of your life.
Your family consists of yourself, your "only child" wife, your one child, your parents, your wife's parents, and all grandparents still living.

There is so much:
a) competition from over population,

b) fear of government ever changing policies

c) limited business practices with world trade


It is coming common practice to lie, steal and cheat at a global level. It is a true dog eats dog existence for many. And the world has an abundance of opportunists more than willing to "use" these young people. And ADD to these young people's stress. Not a pretty picture. But I have a solution.

A win win win scenario.

The lesson learnt from our own industrial revolution at the turn of the last century. Several things will be played out. Child labor laws, more government laws and regulations, pollution, population moving from country life to centralized cities.

The one thing that motivated many during the last century was advancements in health care and quality of living.

The age expectation in China is 62-64 years of age. I dare say: that would be our expectation of a life without modern science, including pre-natal care, vaccinations, and I personally (as many have) had major surgery to preserve my life.

So if we think more globally and adopt an idea of perseverance; my answer to the fears of the USA is health care. NO NOT OBAMA CARE_____EVIL EVIL

I believe medical care could and should be available to every American, in fact everyone on earth. I have no problem with all having health care if we could assure all would receive the health care afforded by my husband (at a health premium of 1000 dollars a month. A 1000 dollars a month for him and a 1000 a month for me), or someone of Congress. My husband recently needed three years of extensive health care. Recent health care needed for my husband was never halted for pre approvals, out of network doctors, or questions as to what the health insurance would provide. My husband was referred to all the top doctors, treated like everyone should be treated and is now back to full time employment.

Money pours out of the USA at an alarming rate-----my solution---- which is already true up to a point. USA becomes the health facility of the world! We already train a large percentage of the doctors in the world. Our medical research and know how is far advance of most countries. When a top executive needs health care ---many of them come to the USA. Medical equipment, pharmaceutical advancements are of high quality.

As countries drain our economy we can replenish our funds with providing health care. Pump money (i.e. college loans) into medical universities. Foreign countries are sending their kids to our medical universities at the expense of their government and our tax money (foreign student grants and class priorities). We could educate each student to their ability and interest ----- nurses, aides, patient care, doctors, research, medical equipment assembly , chemistry, hospital janitors, landscapers, (some of our hospitals are filthy!!!)
Hospital carpenters, nutritionists etc.

But the foreign citizen must buy into our medical plan-----with strict pre-existing restrictions and pre approval needed------we could use Obama’s plan as a template!!! LOL

Medical equipment could be assembled in other countries to our standards---no lead paint, inferior metals, etc. Let those countries deal with the pollution, waste treatment etc------again to our educated standards.

We can also employee Americans to be the global manufacturing inspectors.
Ergo you want your key personnel their parents, grandparents --- you can pay for their care here in the USA.
We already do this to a point---- Many foreigners bring their parents here for social security and health care.
A person from the Philippines can come to the USA and only work 5 years in our work force to apply for the same benefits I would receive upon retirement. Based on their salary maybe they will receive more than a person who lives, works here their entire life. .
Trained in our schools, on our tax dollar, to work a profession for 5 years, receive professional salaries, (far above salaries of a teacher), to retire in luxury in their country.
Oh well you kind of get the idea------- make USA the high quality medical facility it could be-------with the idea of employing everyone and charging other countries to use our facilities. We will pay back our national debt fast at the rate hospitals charge.

Another plus-----we could open OUR space program again because we would be manufacturing our pure chemicals in a less gravity environment --- eliminating particles per million issues----- and there are also many more advantages allowed through this program

But alas they will not make me QUEEN of the world-----so I sit here with my perfect plan again-----until the men in the white coats come to get me -----so I can join all the other people who have a perfect plan for world peace and domination.

Saturday, September 3, 2011

Life According to Ruth 101 --- Display Your Flag

I received an email encouraging Americans to fly the American flag on Sept 11 2011 -- the tenth anniversary of the attack on the towers.

Each year, I would go downtown San Jose on the sidewalk outside St Joseph's Church and watch the firemen ceremonies. The San Jose Firemen would make an arch with their extended ladders across Market Street. Then firemen from all over Northern California would come in full formal dress to pray for all firemen. What a spectacular scene!!!

This year I am in Chula Vista and wanted to fly an American flag. There is proper etiquette in the care, flying and storing of an American flag. This was common knowledge of most grade level children when I was growing up. I am amazed at how many young adults did not realize that there is such a thing as an US Flag Code.

The US Flag Code has changed over the years and when researching the subject today I found not all resources were in agreement as to the proper protocol. Such as the Veteran's code has not been updated to include Sept 11. Some codes have included Sept 11 as Patriot Day but do not mention to fly at half-staff.

So I investigated.

Patriot Day

Patriot Day has been added. to the Flag Holidays listed in section 174 of the US Flag Code. On December 18, 2001, President Bush signed Public Law No: 107-89, designating September 11th as Patriot Day. State and local governments and the people of the United States are asked to observe Patriot Day with appropriate programs and activities to honor the individuals who lost their lives as a result of the terrorist attacks on that date in 2001.

The day has also been designated as a day that the US flag should be flown at half-staff from sunrise to sundown, not just until noon as is done on Memorial Day. In addition the people of the United States are asked to observe a moment of silence on Patriot Day in remembrance of the victims.

Many people have asked if Government offices, schools, banks, etc. will be closed on that day. This seems to be a local individual decision and not mandated by federal or state law at this time.

Patriot Day should not be confused with Patriot’s Day, a regional holiday celebrated in New England on the third Monday in April which commemorates Paul Revere’s ride and the battle of Lexington & Concord during the Revolutionary War. The Boston Marathon is run on Patriot’s Day every year.

For a copy of the Public Law, visit the National Flag Foundation at

Flag Holidays

It is recommended to display your American Flag every day of the year. Be sure to consult the following tables to make sure that you are flying your flag properly.

Days to fly the American Flag at Half Staff:

By order of the President of The United States
By order of the Governor of your state

May 15th Peace Officers Memorial Day (half staff all day)

Last Monday in May Memorial Day (half-staff until noon)

September 11th
Patriot Day (half staff all day)

December 7th
Pearl Harbor Remembrance Day (half staff all day)

Special Occasions for Flag Display

January 1 New Year's Day
January 20 Inauguration Day
February 12 Lincoln's Birthday
Third Monday In February Washington's Birthday
Varies Easter Sunday
Second Sunday in May Mother's Day
Third Saturday in May Armed Forces Day
Last Monday in May Memorial Day (half-staff until noon)
June 14 Flag Day
July 4 Independence Day
First Monday in September Labor Day
September 17 Constitution Day
Second Monday in October Columbus Day
October 27 Navy Day
November 11 Veteran's Day
Fourth Thursday in November Thanksgiving
December 25 Christmas Day

Friday, September 2, 2011

Special Spinach Salad

I have a real passion for great Spinach Salads. A great Spinach salad is hard to beat and even harder to keep low calorie. I do not like most bottled dressings but I have found some great spinach salad dressings.

Cold Spinach Salad:

Recipe for dressing:
1/3 cup of olive oil
3 Tbs of sugar -- I use a substitute
2 Tbs White Wine Vinegar -- I use Rice Vinegar
2 Tbs Sour Cream-- I use Greek Yogurt
1/2 tsp ground mustard
Blend all ingredients on a covered jar and place in refrigerator

Add dressing when ready to serve over
1 pkg (6 oz) of Fresh Baby Spinach
1/2 cup of walnuts (toasted optional)
1/2 cup of dried cranberries or craisins

I do not have walnuts or cranberries tonight so I will probably use blueberries, fresh pear pieces and chopped fried chicken pieces.

Hot Spinach Salad

Recipe for dressing:
1/3 cup of olive oil
3 Tbs of sugar -- I use a substitute
2 Tbs White Wine Vinegar -- I use Rice Vinegar
2 Tbs Worcheshire Sauce
1/2 tsp ground mustard
1/2 tsp of grated garlic
1/4 corn starch to thicken if desired (corn starch will need to come to a boil if added at the end. Increase heat long enough to mildly boil for three minutes and then return heat to low)
Blend all ingredients over low heat and set aside dressing until ready to serve over
1 pkg (6 oz) of Fresh Baby Spinach
2 hard boiled eggs chopped --- egg whites only if needed
1/2 cup sliced white mushrooms
1/2 cup of thinly sliced red onion

Now for a Ruth Pet Peeve:

I love reading the menus in fancy restaurants explain wonderful spinach salads. Many restaurants will offer great sounding spinach salads with strawberries, orange vinaigrette's, all kinds of great ingredients along with wonderfully described dressings. If the salad is priced over 7 dollars --- my biggest pet peeve is spinach leaves with 2-3 inch stems on the spinach leaves, One strawberry sliced into 3 parts and a bottled or very old tasting dressing.
Of course I would not do it but the inner Ruth wants to send the spinach salad back and ask that the chef trim the spinach.

Now for the Irony of this blog: A true Ruthism (You can never win!)

In an effort to provide a healthy diet --- Spinach Salads seemed like a sure thing. Iron, green, low carbs,........ but I have developed a sensitivity to oxalate. This sensitivity led to kidney stones (Ouch! Ouch!)
So I was given a CAN NOT EAT list by my doctor.

High-oxalate foods-higher to lower

spinach --- what??? my health food?
swiss chard
wheat germ
soybean crackers
chocolate ---- HUH?
black Indian tea --- I love my stress reducing black tea
sweet potatoes --- my go-to food thickener ; and I love a great sweet potato pie.

Foods that have medium amounts of oxalate may be eaten in limited amounts.

Medium-oxalate foods-higher to lower
grapes -- a favorite
green pepper --- love it in my food
red raspberries
fruit cake
strawberries --- a favorite
marmalade - love it

So if I am to have a low glutton, sugar-free, low oxalate diet the list of okay foods is shrinking.

So we need to eat to live and not live to eat.

Monday, July 18, 2011

The Shoe Skirt ---- Marriage Arguement number 145874

I would like to introduce a kindred spirit.........


I am an avid fan of "everyday people think up great ideas" And as an independent entrepreneur I am often looking for marketing ideas and encouragement. Ergo Holly Tucker's stories was one of those "Why didn't anyone think of that before stories?" More about Holly at the end of the blog.

This is a blog about Marriage egoccentrialism: Yes I do make up words and phrases as I please. Two people may marry with seemingly common backgrounds and experiences. But it is only after being married awhile do those "differences" start popping up. In our marriage it is the bed. ---- ok get your head out of the gutter---- it is in making the bed.

My bed is my sanctuary

People who visited me know that! Believe me -- lots of people who knew me and my seemingly simple taste have been known to take a double take when they would see my fit for a QUEEN bed. Children always need to crawl in it. Parents knew their children would be fine. Because if I had a visitor overnight --- I let them sleep in my bed and there they rested very nicely.

On the other hand Tony's family is from Hawaii---- a bottom sheet, a light top sheet, done. Think hospital bed.....

So needless to say making the bed and adding all it's comfort components has been a life long lesson for Tony. And this week end -- I added this SHOE SKIRT to our bed making routine.

okay it is like this ---- under bed storage, box springs, shoe skirt, bed skirt, mattress, foam pad, feather comforter, special comforter protective sheet (and no Tony --- you can not double that as a bottom sheet here!!!) and yes all the winkles need to be removed from this protective sheet, Tony!!! pull on the corners and sides and tuck to remove winkles and keep it even. Flannel sheet---- bottom fitted sheet. Simple, practical, and after all these years should be able to be done.

Top sheet with pretty side down, large hem at the top, high enough to cover your shoulders (Stop Tony, do not fold the large hem down yet.) light blanket -- approximately 16 inches from top of the bed. Now you fold down the top sheet---- sleep pillows, comforter, decorative pillows, and when I can get away with it a bed doll. EASY!

So we went through this last night as we have once or twice a week for our entire married life. Minus the shoe skirt---- and then I reminded Tony he likes his top sheet tucked in at the bottom-- so he does that to his side of the bed.

And even after all these years --- I return to the bedroom to find--- Tony has tucked the bed skirt in between the mattress and box springs -- when he tucked in his top sheet-----

Okay Okay---- I took a deep breath and fixed the bed skirt.

I know TMI but if that is the worse I suffer with Tony---- I guess I will keep him.


Holly Tucker
"Shoe Skirt" | Hendersonville, NC

Have shoes taken over your closet? Who'd imagine such a common dilemma would result in a product, the "Shoe Skirt," featured in the first Everyday Edisons infomercial? (See it at When Holly Tucker misplaced yet another shoe, she decided her closet was out of control and took charge by developing an ingenious way to store shoes—the world's first shoe organizer that provides extra storage hidden under a bed skirt, with up to 30 pockets for shoes or other items. As a matter of fact, Holly still uses the prototype she originally made for her bed, which holds 35 pairs of shoes! The footwear aficionado presented her idea at the Everyday Edisons Dallas casting call on March 15, 2008 — and a shoe star was born.

An Ohio native, Holly grew up with her siblings and her divorced working mother who also happened to be a successful business owner. As an undergraduate, she majored in French, which would pay off in a later career, and gathered an MBA from Golden Gate University. Disenchanted by supervising teamsters on a freight dock in one of her earlier jobs, Holly's free-spirited nature took over and she soon enrolled in travel school. She learned the ropes working at travel agencies for a few years before the budding entrepreneur took a chance starting her own travel business. Consequently, she's happy to have been able to travel extensively since then — and even met her spouse while traveling in Germany.

Holly credits her husband of 20 years, a retired Air Force fighter pilot, as her chief inspiration, but also acknowledges a science teacher in junior high school as a great role model who encouraged and inspired her, and remains a treasured friend to this day. Holly's fondness for felines—she has four cats, "her babies"—is one of her passions, as are reality television shows. Right now, Holly's biggest aspiration is to cut back on work and spend more time inventing and enjoying life.

"My husband came up with the motto ‘A shoe skirt in every house!'"